When I’m frustrated, I get forceful and assertive, then I say things I regret and I’m riddled with guilt and I cry.
It’s frustrating when you live so far from your family. You feel helpless when something goes wrong or there is a crisis and you can’t be there.
My parents live 700km away, by choice, and recently both my parents have been very ill. My mum has acute osteoporosis and has had back surgery as well as emphysema. My dad has recently been diagnosed with emphysema and possible liver disease. They are still awaiting the final blood tests.
I know they shield me from a lot of their illness details and they can do so because I’m so far away. When I phone, they constantly say “I’m fine. Don’t worry” but I get frustrated and I do worry. They're isolated and only have each other to rely on.
They also don’t seem to question their doctors or their medical aid about what they’re entitled to or what their real benefits are. I only want the best care for them and I feel they’re not getting it.
I wish I could be there for them in some way. My hands feel totally tied. Not only do my parents have their ill-health to worry about, but their pride gets the best of them. They won’t ask for help, they will never ask for assistance, be it money or an extra person to be there when they can’t care for one another.
Just feeling discouraged and frustrated and wanted to share....
“To conquer frustration, one must remain intensely focused on the outcome, not the obstacles.”