Wednesday, 26 January 2011

Last Year of the 30s....

Yes, me lovelies....this is my last year in my thirties and it feels daunting. Everyday I notice a wee bit more sagging of my skin all over and I notice the wee crows feet near my eyes. Its really sad when I look in the mirror and I know I will never be able to turn back time. So, I have come to the conclusion that, either I have to accept it or I need to embrace plastic surgery, big time!



Well, I have no extra dosh for plastic surgery, which I’m not afraid of (for the record) and I wouldn’t mind going that route at some point. So, I suppose I need to start accepting it, which I have... okay not completely, but I’m certainly getting there.


When you get to my age, you worry less and less what others think of you, physically and as a person.  You're pretty comfortable in your own skin and very opinionated.  The "set in your ways" is starting to kick in and it starts to mean less and less if someone doesn’t like you.  I don’t wonder or try to figure out why someone doesn't like me any more.  I just figure you can't please everyone and you're not everyone's cuppa tea.  You sorta say to yerself  “Fuck ‘em” and move on to the people that really matter. 

I'd rather focus my energy on the people who do like me whether I'm old or young, fat or thin, the others can move along swiftly and look the other way.  Thank you very fucking much.


Thing is, I'm still the same person inside. My mind doesn’t age. I still feel like the silly 20-year-old and often act like it. I still wear pigtails in my hair when I feel like it. I still skip down the street when I’m happy, I still do hand-stands against the wall with my kids and watch Sponge Bob Square Pants.  I still play ring-a-rosie the girls and now I just fall down harder, but I am well-padded in that department, so no need to worry folks!


Lets get to the point, shall we?

The inevitable, big 4-0 is around the corner for me and I’ve been thinking about chopping all my hair off. A colleague recently did it and it looks fucking fantastic on her!

There is nothing worse than mutton dressed and lamb and, I know it contradicts what I just said about worrying less about what you look like and what others think of you, but I don’t want to look like a ridiculous old hag with long straggly hair and a face like leather.   Its just nasty and witchified.


Now, it took me a long time to embrace and welcome my red locks as one of my good features. I always got teased at school for it and got all the usual ginger names like copper-top, Duracell, carrots and it was horrid.  It scarred me for life.  I’ve had my hair long for nearly 20 years now and I’ve come to love the length and I finally love the colour too. I get many compliments about my hair but I wonder if its not time to get real, face the music and get a style that's cropped and trendy.


I need yer help here, your honestly....  Am I starting to look a wee bit too old for long hair?  Could I pull off a short cropped style without looking like a fucking chubby pixie?

19 comments:

Max Evel said...

First off ...great pic.
Second, don't cut your hair ,because you are getting older.
I don't know why women do that shit.
Third, keep thinking ,and feeling like your in your 20's ,and you'll do just fine.
Good post.

Lisa said...

You look lovely! NOOOOO - don't cut your beautiful hair!!! I had exactly the same thoughts 2 years ago and chopped off my waist-length hair. Was happy with my new style for exactly 2 months. Growing it all out again. Your hair is really really gorgeous - and you look like a young girl.

Nat said...

I don't think you should cut your hair off just because you're heading 40 side....only cut it if you want a change or a new easy style or something!
You have beautiful hair and look gorgeous with it long :-) And no where near 40 either, BTW...

jacksofbuxton said...

I suppose the fact I cut hair means I can offer an opinion.

Don't cut your hair short.It's lovely as it is.Try imagining Julianne Moore with a short hair cut.Not quite as attractive is she?

Akelamalu said...

You will still feel 20 in your mind even when you're 60+ believe me I know.

Re your hair. I had long hair until my 30's but I do think when you get to your 40's long hair can be ageing. A short(er) sharp(er) cut can do wonders for your ego and image. If you have it cut and don't like it you can always grow it again can't you. You know I love the colour. :)

Sausage Fingers said...

Nae worries, 40 isnae that bad. cough, cough.
look at the post I did about being in my 40's I hope you laugh.

CB said...

Bitch!

One- You are fucking gorgeous!
Two- I would MAIM or KILL to have your hair!!!!

You look fabulous woman!

Joker_SATX said...

I guess I would be the wrong person to ask. You look HAWT, regardless of hair style.

Let me say that another way. I'll take you which ever way you want...long hair...short hair...doesn't matter.

mattposky said...

You look great for almost forty and could easily pass for younger. Just mix youthful dress with classier ("timeless") elements and enjoy your future cougar status.

..R May A.. said...

you look gorgeous with long hair :)
I always think long hair only really looks bad when it starts thinning - bit your hair is gorgeous - don't cut it off!! x

Osbasso said...

I have to vote on the side of long hair here. You're definitely not "too old" for it!

Justsayin' said...

You look awesome. Maybe try a shorter doo if you don't like it you can grow it back out.

Cat Chat With Caren And Cody said...

there is no rule at all that says you can't have long hair if you want it!!

You have to do what makes YOU happy!!!!

You are NOT old...I'll trade...I am 55!! (but mentally I am 27 lol).......you are beautiful and do what YOU want!

Andrew Green said...

I turn 32 this year....
Thinking maybe it's time I get some health insurance.

Kelley @ magnetoboldtoo said...

every time I go to the hairdresser I ask him if I should cut off my hair (it is waist length) and he tells me no.

He told me when I start looking too old for the style he will let me know.

And in turn, I will let you know K? He is, after all, Sebastian The Wonder Hairdresser and he knows what he is doing.

Nikki and Keith said...

Noooooo Gilz, don't do it!!!! don't cut your hair...... you look beautiful at 39 with your locks!!!

cat said...

Nope, you are not! Only chop it off if you feel you want to for a change, not because you think you should because of age. Gosh, I am 42 and now growing my hair again. You look fab doll!

Mimi and Tilly said...

Hi there, after a blogging break I'm back, and feel compelled to say "Please don't cut your hair." Your hair is completely beautiful. When I hit 30 I went through the same thought process as you and went and had my hair cropped. What-a-mistake-a-to-make-a. Spent the next couple of years growing it back... Your red hair is outstandingly beautiful, and with hair that beautiful there's no age where it's not beautiful. I don't believe in the mutton dressed as lamb theory, unless a person is in their 70's and wearing nipple tassels to the supermarket... And anyone who'd do that has to be a lot of fun...

Be you. You are beautiful.

If on the other hand you're getting your hair cut because you fancy it, go ahead, but don't do it because you think you should due to your age.

Anonymous said...

Obviously, you cut your hair. The bob looks attractive on you, as it does on most women, but your long red hair was awesome. I don't get the age dilemma. Beautiful is beautiful at any age, and your long hair was gorgeous!

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